"The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change." - Carl Roger - know yourself...you'll be able to spot your flaws...change these flaws...you'll have a higher self-esteem...leading to a happier life
As people we have innate defense mechanisms. We see things as we want to see them. We change our experiences to suit our ideals. We alter everything we do to make it appear that we are great. We need to get control over these things. We need to put ourselves out of the motion of everyone else and into our own path. We need to live our own lives and work towards our own goals. We can't let society dictate what it is we should be doing if 'what it is' is not what we want to do and not what makes us happy. It seems ridiculous to try to live up to someone else' expectations.
I'll give you an example from my life right now. I am in University, but i am extremely unhappy. I can't relate to my fellow students as we has drastically different values. I used to want straight As, but not anymore. Straight As won't make me happy. Good remarks from professors won't make me happy. Financial well-being will make me comfortable, but not happy. I have little interest in a lot of what i am studying in school right now, so i need to make a change. I want to study innovation, creativity, trading, life, everything unrelated to what i am currently studying: accounting... So i am thinking about enrolling in independent studies next year... or just getting out of school for good and pursuing real life. Why should i remain unhappy to make others happy...they aren't living my life.
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