One other thought Rock - and probably the obvious one - but if/when you start cranking out regular 'paychecks' from the market, most problems seem to go away...
I know, seems obvious, but there's a few suggestions here:
1) As mentioned above, share with your spouse how each day at work goes. Treat it like a day at the office.
2) In the beginning when you start pulling money OUT, get actual checks mailed to you (I realize wiring is quicker), show your spouse your paycheck and make copies. Start building a paycheck binder.
Once this becomes the norm, you can simply let her know on Fri or Mon how much your wire request was for the previous week or month. But in the beginning, producing actual bank checks is a very positive confirmation for her AND YOU. And if you want to have some real fun - when you hit a big goal, head to the bank and get the CASH. Take it home and see what your efforts have produced. Share with your spouse. You may take the cash back the very next day, but who cares. There is a process here that I believe can work when you BRING YOUR SPOUSE INTO YOUR BUSINESS.
In the end Rock, you need to realize:
She has just as much at risk here as you do.